I have learned over the years that there are no coincidences and that in hindsight everything happens for a reason, until you stop living in your past. As I have shared above, like you, I have experienced challenges, hardship and negativity, sometimes to the point of incapacitation. Would I change the challenges that I have experienced, the hardships I have overcome, the negativity I have endured? Absolutely not, because what I have experienced in my life has helped me to become who I am today.
However, what I recognised is that the challenges, the hardships, the negativity went on a lot longer than was necessary, because even though I intellectually knew better, I did not do better, by making the necessary changes in my life when I could have done – I kept on playing out what seemed like the same scenarios in my life. It was like I was living in a trance.
Life is here to be lived, through our experiences, good and bad, and by definition you will experience adversity, challenges, hardship and negativity, but you are not meant to “live in it”. Life leaves clues and patterns so that you can quickly get the learning from the ‘negative’ experience and use it to experience more happiness and joy in life.